Roaches break marriages – a tale of two couples
Research by Esteban Ortiz-Ospina and Max Roser for OurWorldinData reports that marriages are becoming less common: in most countries the share of people getting married has fallen in recent decades. The report goes on to say that cohabitation – couples living together who are not married – is becoming increasingly common. The striking thing though is that there has been a general upward trend in divorce rates globally since the 1970s. In the US, divorce rates more than doubled from 2.2 per 1,000 in 1960 to over 5 per 1,000 in the 1980s. In the UK, Norway and South Korea, divorce rates more than tripled.
Multiple reasons are attributable to this changing viewpoint – increasing independence of women changing marriages from an economic agreement to just that of love, decreasing religious inclinations making ceremonies less enticing, dating online improving options, divorce rates going up scaring people against tying the knot and in general increased uncertainty. But I can bet that not even in your wildest dreams you would attribute roaches to be the reason for marriages not working out!
Learn from the example of my next door neighbours Raj and Simran.
Despite having a very hectic week, Raj was awfully cheerful one fine Sunday morning. And, of course he had good reasons too; he was getting married to his girlfriend, Simran, in a fortnight! Simran was a hygiene and cleanliness freak.
Raj was worried about converting his bachelor pad to a liveable space and welcoming his love with a surprise. He requested me to help him out and seeing his poor self struggle so much with everything, I was happy to oblige. But was I in for a shock of a lifetime!
First thing I noticed in the heap of stuff strewn around like garbage was the intrusion of roaches feeding on stuff like crazy! Holding myself back from literally making a run for my life, I confronted Raj – “Buddy, you alright? This is not just some normal cleaning activity we about to do, are we? You want me to get sick?”
Being his usual carefree self, Raj proudly took out a stick of tiny white chalk and brandished it to my face. Gosh! I tried to reason with him to give up on these quick fixes and have a professional manage the situation but he didn’t bother much.
Say what you will…. Skip to a fortnight down the line and the newlyweds get home from the courtroom. I wish I wasn’t saying this but the screams would have woken a sleeping giant a kilometre away. It wasn’t the usual scream of marital bliss either. A broom in one hand and a Sandal in another – Simran running around the front porch of the house behind Raj and Raj running behind the creepy crawlers. A sight to behold!
If you don’t believe me, here is another couple who didn’t survive the onslaught of cockroaches. A Report in Amar Ujala on 12th of April read thus,
“A couple changed their house every two months for three years since their Marriage reads in 2017 as the wife feared cockroaches. Every time the wife spotted a cockroach, she would scream and run away from the site. The husband got tired of this frequent shifting and felt embarrassed amongst his people. So, after exploring options like counselling and medications, the husband had filed for divorce.”
We are looking for a match for Raj ever since. If you know of someone interesting, please do comment below.
On a side note, I believe it is a safe bet to explore professional help in pest management and give our new generation one less reason to detest marriages. What do you think?
Vasupradha Ananth is is part of PWI Editorial team. She is a working mother and enjoys reading murder mysteries and about natural wonders. Vasupradha is quite passionate about cooking and travelling to new places.